Ever feel like life is one long, chaotic to-do list? Maybe it’s time to grab the reins and start living with intention. In today’s episode, Joe Saul-Sehy, Paula Pant, and Doc G team up with special guest Candy Valentino to help you cut through the noise, focus on what matters, and make purposeful choices that align with your goals.
We’ll explore the power of saying “no” (because sometimes your calendar deserves a break), the magic of setting three non-negotiables, and how small, thoughtful shifts can lead to massive wins. Whether you’re a business owner plotting your empire or a 9-to-5er trying to reclaim your time, this episode offers practical tips to help you design the life you want.
And just when you thought it was all deep thoughts and purpose, we take a detour to discuss Blackbeard’s treasure (yes, that Blackbeard) and debate its true value. Spoiler alert: The answer might surprise you—or at least make you re-evaluate your treasure-hunting strategy.
Grab a seat, Stackers—it’s time to get intentional.
Run of Show
- Podcast Highlights and Wrap-Up
- Opening Scene: Can You Fly This Plane?
- Welcome to the Stacking Benjamins Show
- Getting Intentional About Your Life
- Meet the Guests: Candy Valentino Joins the Crew
- Candy on The 9% Edge
- Why Intentional Living is Your Secret Weapon
- Trivia Time: Digging Into Blackbeard’s Treasure
- Debating the Value of Pirate Booty
- The Final Answer Revealed: Was It Worth It?
- Deep Dive: Intentionality and Finding Purpose
- Setting Intentions and Dodging Distractions
- How Small Shifts Can Spark Big Changes
- Learning to Say No Without Guilt
Deeper dives with curated links, topics, and discussions are in our newsletter, The 201, available at https://www.StackingBenjamins.com/201
Enjoy!
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Our Topic:
Intentional Living: Why and How to Start Acting with Purpose (Psych Central)
During our conversation, you’ll hear us mention:
- Intentional Living vs. Purposeful Living
- Tuning Out the Noise
- Defining Success
- Finding Your “Enough”
- Side Hustles Gone Right
- Overcoming Fear of Failure
- The Value of Community
- Reframing Failure
- The Role of Patience in Wealth Building
- Avoiding Lifestyle Inflation
- Career Pivots and Financial Planning
- Daily Habits of Successful People
- The Intersection of Money and Happiness
Our Contributors
A big thanks to our contributors! You can check out more links for our guests below.
Candy Valentino
Another thanks to Candy Valentino for joining our contributors this week! Hear more from Candy on her show, The Candy Valentino Show at The Candy Valentino Show Podcast – Apple Podcasts.
Check out her hit book The 9% Edge: The Life-Changing Secrets to Create More Revenue for Your Business and More Freedom for Yourself
Doc G
Another thanks to Doc G for joining our contributors this week! Hear more from Doc G on his show, Earn & Invest podcast at Earn & Invest on Apple Podcasts.
Check out his book Taking Stock: A Hospice Doctor’s Advice on Financial Independence, Building Wealth, and Living a Regret-Free Life.
Pre-order his upcoming book The Purpose Code: How to unlock meaning, maximize happiness, and leave a lasting legacy
Paula Pant
Check Out Paula’s site and amazing podcast: AffordAnything.com
Follow Paula on Twitter: @AffordAnything
Doug’s Game Show Trivia
- When Blackbeard’s ship, Queen Anne’s Revenge was found, it was chock full of treasure…how many of these treasures would Blackbeard have kept if he had to share them equally with all of his wives?
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Written by: Kevin Bailey
Episode transcript
[00:00:00] Doc G: Can you fly this plane and land it? Surely you can’t be serious. I am serious. And don’t call me Shirley. [00:00:11] Doug: Live from the basement of the YouTube headquarters. It’s the Stacking Benjamin Show. [00:00:28] I am Joe’s mom’s neighbor, Doug. And don’t you think it’s time you got intentional about your life? Man, I’m having some PTSD ’cause that sounds exactly like Joe’s mom. And then she say something like, no grand man eats Lucky Charms at two in the afternoon. God, [00:00:42] Joe: I think she might have a point. [00:00:45] Doug: I’m getting to it. [00:00:46] If you think you should be more intentional about your life, this is the show for you. And that’s why we intentionally invited the host of the Kandy Valentino Show. I’m not gonna believe this. It’s Kandy Valentino. And she’s focused and ready to help you afford to be more intentional from afford anything, pull a pants, and finally, the guy who is intentionally focused on purpose. [00:01:11] From Earn and Invest dot g. And of course at the halfway point of this podcast, we’ll pause for my absolutely heartwarming trivia and now a guy who’s always intentional about the weekend. It’s Joe Saw. See Hi. [00:01:35] Joe: Hey there stackers, and happy Friday to you. Sit back and relax because. We’re going to intentionally have an hour of, uh, fun getting intentional about your lives. Let’s dive into our crew that we’ve got here with us today. We’ll have our special guest go Last, let’s start off with the gentleman behind our brother podcaster Invest. [00:01:55] Mr. Jordan Grubb at AK Doc Cheese here. How are you man? I am good. And this [00:01:59] Doc G: is right in my alley here talking about intention and purpose. Boy, I am excited about this one. [00:02:05] Joe: I know. It’s funny, I thought of our special guest first, ’cause this is a big part of her book on this topic. But then I thought second about you. [00:02:14] I’m like, oh my goodness. Doc G has uh, all this. You, you very intentionally, by the way, at a point in your life, decided to change gears. I. [00:02:22] Doc G: I [00:02:22] Joe: did [00:02:23] Doc G: from living the life of a very, very busy doctor to being a podcaster, author, public speaker, and, you know, all that important stuff. And Joe, you, you thought of me next, but you contacted me last, ’cause I heard about this recording yesterday afternoon. [00:02:38] So I, I don’t know about this thought of [00:02:39] Joe: me second, I think that’s just more about me and my organizational skills at this very moment that it has to do with you. Of course not. And the woman. Who is in Manhattan intentionally got intentional about living in Manhattan. Paula Pant is here. How are you? [00:02:52] Paula: I am doing great. [00:02:53] I love Intentional Living. It’s a, a topic that I intentionally try to talk about, so I am intentionally on this podcast. [00:03:01] Joe: You intentionally pay a ton of money in rent every month? [00:03:04] Paula: I sure do. I intentionally, very intentionally pay a lot on rent, [00:03:10] Joe: and the woman who brought this topic to my. With her new book called The 9% Edge, Katie Valentino’s Back. [00:03:17] How are you? [00:03:18] Candy: I’m great. Thanks so much for having me back [00:03:20] Joe: in the 9% edge. You’re talking mostly to business owners though, right? [00:03:24] Candy: Yes. Business owners, entrepreneurs, some investors. [00:03:27] Joe: I will link to our first time that you and I chatted because we had such a great discussion about your amazing background, all the stuff that you’ve been through and becoming an an entrepreneur yourself. [00:03:39] What does the 9% Edge actually mean? Kdi. [00:03:42] Candy: So 91% of all businesses fail in their first 10 years. And so we did the largest research study. I took 18 months and looked at 2000 businesses and 17,000 entrepreneurs to find out why. And so the 9% edge are the tools for you to get the edge to be successful in business because oftentimes what we hear about on social media or from some guru actually isn’t going to create a sustainable business. [00:04:06] ’cause if we don’t build a business with intention, if we don’t build a life with intention, one day we’re gonna wake up and realize that what is this that I just built? And you’re actually gonna be living in a cage as opposed to a life of freedom. So we talk about how to build more revenue, how to create more profit, and eventually how to have ultimate freedom in your life. [00:04:23] Joe: Do you remember when you first got intentional about your life and where you are headed? [00:04:27] Candy: Yeah, I was 19. Um, I was 19 years old. I started my first business. I had a six week run rate that I got an SBA loan, and this was back in the late nineties when women were only allowed to get loans without a man’s signature for about eight years at that time. [00:04:42] So it was a really rare thing, and I realized that I watched my dad work so hard my whole life. My dad was a mechanic. My mom cleaned houses, and so I was intentional about building a business that I could exit. I learned a stat back then that less than 2% of female entrepreneurs. Ever broke a million dollars in revenue, revenue, top line revenue, and at the time, less than 0.05% of female entrepreneurs ever got their companies acquired. [00:05:06] So I said, check, check. That’s what I’m after. And everything I did in the start of my business was in order to be able to make work optional by the time I was 40, which is what [00:05:15] Joe: I did. What’s amazing is what I was reading about that story. The part that impresses me most about that is not about I’m after the million dollars of revenue, I’m after this, uh, to build this amazing company, this amazing life for myself. [00:05:28] It’s that you had six weeks to do it. Like to just to get off the ground. And as you know, kandy, like every single time I’ve seen somebody’s business plan, anybody’s playing, they’re like, oh yeah, I, I’ve got enough money for six months. We’re gonna get this business going in six months. And I think every time I’ve told people like, triple that number and you’re good. [00:05:46] Yeah, [00:05:48] Candy: so 45 days, seven employees, no college degree, no corporate background, and I had to figure it out and no backup plan like this was it. So I think what happens though is when you make promises to other people, you call something out of yourself that you didn’t even know that you had. And that was a gift that wasn’t, it wasn’t something of my planning. [00:06:08] I felt it was divine. I. Told these seven people that I’m going to give you a position that I’m going to pay you. And it really caused this like other version of me to make sure that I was not going to fail these people. I may have failed myself, I don’t know. But when I promised these other people that I was gonna provide for them and they left their job to come work for me, and they were all older than I was twice my age, that I had to show up. [00:06:30] And I think there’s something about leverage that’s really beautiful that when. Your back’s against the wall. We tend to figure it out as long as we don’t give up. And really that’s the first part of the intention of, of how I started. [00:06:43] Joe: I just can’t imagine like offering somebody a job and thinking, I got enough to pay you for just six weeks, so we’re gonna make it. [00:06:52] But you’re right. You set it out there to the universe and you’re gonna go get it. And that’s what we’re gonna talk about today. Very, very being very, very intentional. You know what else we’re intentional about here? K. What’s that? We’re intentional about telling all our stackers that our Friday shows are brought to you by State Farm. [00:07:07] How about that, huh? System. If you’re, if you’re a small, you walk right into that Kandy. If you’re a small business owner isn’t just your business, it’s your life. Whatever your business might be, you want someone who understands. That’s where State Farm Small Business Insurance comes in. State Farm agents, they’re small business owners too, and know what it takes to help you personalize your policies for your small business needs. [00:07:30] Everybody sing. Like a good neighbor. State Farm is there. There. Come on. We’ve done better than that. Talk to your local agent today. Alright, we got Candy Valentino here. Paula Pants here. Doc. GAK, Jordan Grut here. We’re talking intentionality. We’ve got just a couple more sponsors that make this podcast go so that it’s free for you. [00:07:50] We’re gonna hear from them and then we’re off and running. [00:07:58] Well, the inspiration for today’s show was Candy Valentino coming on to join us, but our piece that I really wanna focus on comes to us from psych central.com, and it’s all about just living with attention, because whether you’re an entrepreneur or you’re working for the man, it doesn’t matter really. An intentional life I would think is. [00:08:22] A better life. Let’s talk about the downside though, of not being intentional because I feel I’m gonna start with you, doc, because I feel like, you know, on a day like today, just an average Friday, I’m washing the dishes, I’m doing the same stuff I do every day. I’m kind of on autopilot long term. What’s the cost of not being intentional with our lives? [00:08:43] Doc G: Well, I think if we are not intentional with our lives, we don’t really live our values. ’cause the way I think about it is we come to. Activities, trying to bring ourself, who do we wanna be? How do we wanna be in this world? And so we take our values and we translate that into action, which I call purpose. [00:09:00] It’s doing things that are important to you, that light you up, but intentions are like your North Star. It’s the point of I have these values and I’m gonna do these actions, but your intentions tell you how you’re gonna carry out those actions. It’s pretty much. Values in action, [00:09:17] Joe: but Kandy, I would bet, based on what Doc G said when he talks about turning values into action, I don’t doubt that you agree with that, but, but what I do doubt is that more than, I don’t know, 10, 15% of our audience has actually looked hard at those values. [00:09:34] It sounds easy. Why is it so hard for us to do this values-based approach to living? [00:09:41] Candy: I think it’s something that we’ve never been taught. Most of us, probably thirties, maybe if you’re lucky forties, you’re like, what are even these values and what are my values? Like people are in such a reactive state, you know? [00:09:51] It’s like the work to pay bills, to just figure out life. Most people don’t even remember when to put their garbage out. It’s like, talk about attention. That’s such a. Foreign concept. People are just trying to get by and let’s be real. Having intention in life is also a little bit of a privilege. Like some people are just trying to figure out day to day, like they’re like, what do you mean intention? [00:10:10] Like I’m just trying to figure out how to put food on the dang table. So I think we have to be cautious when we talk about it that there is a real cost to it. However, where regardless where you are, you can start to have intention. And if you’re not where you wanna be, it’s because of lack of intentions. [00:10:25] So if you’re in a business that you hate. Guess what? You didn’t build it with intention. If you’re in a relationship that sucks the living life out of you, you weren’t intentional about how you built that relationship. So if anyone listening or watching right now is like, Ugh, I’m not really where I wanna be. [00:10:39] This is the time for you to really double down because the cost is for you to build a life that you don’t want. And we live in a society in a world that has so much opportunity and sometimes all that opportunity. It’s actually disguised as distractions. So you have to be very careful with what you start to place your focus on so that you don’t end upbuilding a life that you don’t love. [00:10:59] Joe: I feel that based on what K’S saying, Paula, that uh, you know, we talk about compounding interest, right? We talk about investing like the compounding effect of not being intentional. I’m hearing Kandy say it can be every bit as bad as. You know, the upside effect of compounding interest on intentionality? [00:11:16] Paula: Yeah. Well, I mean, the beautiful thing is that the compounding works both ways. So if you are unintentional about your life, then that compounds and over time you go deeper and deeper into a life that you are not intentional about, that you do not like you have more sunk cost behind you there that you have to then untangle. [00:11:36] But the opposite is also true as you begin the, the slow process of building a more intentional life. Taking those small actions that start to get you out of it eventually compound over time. You know, on a day-to-day level, it might feel like nothing. But when you look back after five years, it feel, it’s just, you don’t even recognize where you are anymore. [00:11:57] Joe: And I love Doc what Kandy saying also about the privilege of being intentional. ’cause I remember when I was in my dark days with money, like I’m like, oh, this intentionality sounds great, but I gotta put food on the tip. Like. I’m on this, I’m on this escalator to hell and I don’t know how to get off. But also to can’s point, I feel like it doesn’t have to be, you know, you talk about Big P purpose and little P purpose. [00:12:22] When you talk about this idea of living your life, I feel like there’s also big eye intentionality, which is I’m gonna redesign my entire day. And what it talks about in this piece, which is maybe it’s just taking a long walk with your spouse because movement, quality time are priorities. [00:12:37] Doc G: Yeah, I mean, I don’t know. [00:12:39] I, I think it’s a little bit of a cop out to say that being intentional is a privilege. I think anyone in any situation can be in touch with their values, and I think that once you’re in touch with your values, intention is the way you carry out those values. You know, I think people who are in a good economic situation can think about their values. [00:12:57] I think a lot of people who are in poor economic situations also think about their values and the way they walk in this world towards purpose, which is all action based. Is directed by intentions and so you can know what’s important to you, and then you can try to act that out in the world by having that intention. [00:13:17] Whether you’re successful or not doesn’t really matter. It’s that you have the right intentions. So I don’t [00:13:21] Joe: know if it’s really a privilege per se. Well then wait a minute that I’ll ask you the same question I ask Kandy. If you’re right, then how come if people are so in touch with their values, how come so often we see people’s. [00:13:33] Value’s going one way and the things they do in their daily life going in a whole different direction. [00:13:38] Doc G: I. Well, I think a lot of people aren’t intentional about their values. I think knowing their values is something that anyone can get in touch with, and I think if you’re willing to then take those values and be intentional about carrying them out, I don’t think having money or not having money, again, I don’t think it’s connected to privilege. [00:13:55] I think a lot of people either A, don’t put the time and energy into understanding their values or a lot of the times it takes a lot of energy. To take those values and use intention to turn it into a purposeful life, right? So purpose is about actions and about, it’s about present, future. And a lot of people don’t have the energy interest or feel they don’t have the time to actually live a life of purpose. [00:14:17] And so I. In order to do that, you have to know what your values are, and then you have to be intentional about carrying out those activities that reflect those values, and that’s what purpose is. And so I, I, I don’t think there’s anything keeping us from doing this other than the fact that most people are either afraid. [00:14:35] To think about it or have convinced themselves that they’re not sure what it is or a lot of people have convinced themselves they don’t have enough time or money, but often money has very little to do with values and we know the Bureau of Labor Statistics does the American Time study and, and most people have five to six hours of free time a day regardless of where you are socioeconomically. [00:14:52] So I think it’s all quite possible. I think it’s hard, that’s why people don’t do it. It’s actually hard to understand what your own values are and then be consistent and intentional about translating that into activities. [00:15:05] Joe: Where, where, where’s that five hours at? Like that five hours of free time at, ’cause like after I get done watching TikTok videos, I got no time. [00:15:12] Yeah, [00:15:13] Doc G: exactly. And interestingly enough, the studies show that people with a. So lower socioeconomic class tend to have an extra hour. So really you’re talking about six hours for people who have less money, have an ex, wait a minute, you’re saying have more time? Yes. People who are, who are actually higher socioeconomically tend to fill their time more with activities. [00:15:29] There are more emails to respond to, more phone calls to make. Trust me. Some of the busiest people we know are business owners, right? These are the people who are working 70, 80, 90, a hundred hours a week. People who are struggling in lower socioeconomic classes, not all, but a lot of them are working, let’s say 40 or 50 hours a week. [00:15:46] So it’s a big difference. And this has been proven. I’m not making this up. It’s actually, you know, been studied. Paula [00:15:53] Joe: Duck says that we, uh, may just be afraid. Do you think we’re afraid? [00:15:56] Paula: Oh yes. I think being afraid is natural and is normal. The challenge is what do you do? Not in the absence of fear, but rather in spite of the fear [00:16:06] Joe: Candy. [00:16:06] It’s funny because as Paula said, that I’m thinking about business owners and business owners fighting that fear. If you also think people are afraid, I mean, how do you overcome that fear, especially in business? I just can’t imagine walking into your place of business having these seven faces look at me and knowing that in six weeks I might not be able to continue to feed them. [00:16:25] Candy: Yeah, so I personally just, I don’t feel that it’s fear. I feel that they don’t have the information, right? It’s the tools. It’s not so much the idea of intentions. And actually I feel like we got a little off topic because we were really talking about values as opposed to just intention, intentional living, which is just more on purpose, which you can do even if you don’t fully understand your values, which I certainly didn’t at 19, I was just trying not to be poor. [00:16:47] That was really the, the number one thing, but I was still able to build a life and a business. And a portfolio with intention, right? Even though I didn’t fully understand my values, and so I don’t necessarily think, in my opinion that it’s fear. I think people don’t know what to do with this. They hear topics like this, and there’s a lot of platitudes of like, well, what is purpose? [00:17:04] I’m just trying to get through the day. I’m trying to raise a family. I’m being a single mom. All of these real life things that people have to struggle with. It’s like not so much the fear of doing it. It’s what do I do? Like how do I do this? Okay, you know, doc says I need values. Well, where do I even go to figure out what the hell my values are? [00:17:22] And then once I do, how does that actually tie into intention altogether? So I do personally think that they’re two separate things and they’re two separate topics. And you can actually have values and not live with intention. And you can live with intention and not have values. And so we see that a lot in the business world. [00:17:36] So I think it’s more about the tools. You know, ideas are not gonna change our life. It’s the implementation and execution of the idea that will, how can empower people with more tools on knowing what to do. And I think it’s about the power of need. The one half of one second. To pause and stop and identify that they may have a pattern that has either been caught or taught in their environment. [00:17:58] They’re running now like a computer, and they have the script. And to take that one half of one second before your subconscious kicks in and has you do this one thing, ’cause you’re a ball of our habits. And see, do I really wanna do this? Do I really wanna live my life like this? Do I want to live where I wanna live? [00:18:15] Do I wanna be in the house that I have? Do I wanna be with this person? Do I. Want a family? Do I not want a family taking time to pause? I think there is so much power in the pause and we have so much activity and noise around us that people don’t get intentional about pausing to figure out what they want to do, let alone figure out downloading some values based thing and seeing which ones apply to them. [00:18:37] Like that’s a whole separate topic in my opinion, but it’s like, let’s take a look at where you are. And if this is really where you wanna go, that’s the first step. Identify where you are to see if you even wanna be there. We gotta know where we are in order to know what we’re doing, where we’re going, and. [00:18:52] Joe: I do think it’s a separate podcast and we’re not gonna continue on that line, but I do think that intentions align with values is, is definitely the way to go. But I love this idea of lining up our intentionality for the day by taking that pause, gimme some of those ideas of some of the things you’re talking about. [00:19:10] You talk about like when I refer to watching TikTok videos. Taking a pause and going, is this really the best use of my time? Is that what you’re talking about? [00:19:17] Candy: I’ll give you one question. So if they get nothing else from the rest of our time together, just this one question. Does this decision, does this action, does this habit take me closer to the life I want to live or further away? [00:19:29] Does going out and getting blackout drunk get you closer to being a billionaire, or does it get you further away? You know, Doug, Doug, [00:19:36] Joe: Doug. Oh, oh, I I, I started to see Doug’s head go up and down. Yes. Blackout drunk. Yes. [00:19:40] Candy: Sorry. Right. Like that one filter to just pause and ask yourself, because we’re all on this Potto program that we have been running on these scripts for so long and we make a lot of decisions from limiting beliefs. [00:19:51] And things that we catch in our environment or things society tells us we can or can’t do. So it’s really pausing to say, is this actually getting me closer to where I wanna go? Or is this further away? Because once we identify those decisions, those decisions are what’s gonna create our habits, and those habits is what creates our reality. [00:20:06] So it really starts with the decision first. [00:20:09] Joe: We’re gonna talk about that in the second half of the show because we’re gonna dive into exactly what we do. There’s some tips for intentional living. In this piece, obviously our three contributors today have some tips for you as well, but before we get there, we have the most important part of the show probably, which is where we have this year long competition between our three frequent contributors, og, Paula, and my mom and mom. [00:20:33] Doesn’t do stares, doesn’t really care about trivia. So today, Kandy, you get to play on behalf of Mom Doc. That means you’re gonna play on behalf of OG and uh, Kandy. Play On behalf of Mom, that means we’ve got some good news for you and some bad news. Do you want the good news first or the bad news? [00:20:48] Candy: Always. [00:20:49] The bad news, I. [00:20:50] Joe: Well, the bad news is mom isn’t winning and she’s not that happy about it. She’s in second. She’s in second place. She’s got 11. OG has 16, and we’re getting close to the end of the year. So mom needs to make a run. So no pressure. Kandy. All right, but mom’s gotta get going and. The other bad news is Paula is only one behind you, which I think Paula might be. [00:21:10] Is this closer than you’ve been to second place? [00:21:12] Paula: I, yeah. It, it is unusually close. Normally I’m in, I’m so deep into last place that they need a separate scoreboard to see how just, it’s like you’ve got number one, number two, and then like way over there 12 miles away. What like, do. On the horizon. There’s me [00:21:32] Joe: across the horizon. [00:21:33] So it’s 16, 11 to 10. Paula can tie mom today. Well, we need a question, Doug, you’ve got one about today’s date in history and I. Lots and lots and lots of Benjamins as treasure. Uh, what [00:21:48] Doug: do we got? Sure do Joe. Hey, there stackers on Joe’s mom’s neighbor, Doug, and on today’s date in history, way back in 1684 when Joe was only 11 years old, black, come on, fear the pirate was killed in open hand to hand combat by British Naval. [00:22:04] Officer Robert Maynard Blackbeard earned a ton of money, totally fair and square before justice finally caught up to him. But today’s question is this. When they found Blackbeard’s flagship named the Queen Ann’s revenge, it was full of treasures. How many artifacts have divers recovered from it? And hold on. [00:22:26] ’cause I know Paul is probably thinking, oh, that’s not too bad. I can take a guess at that bud. Wait, there’s more. It was reported that Black beard was married 14 times during his life. So. Here’s our real question. If his treasures were equally divided by the divorce court judges, how many would Blackbeard have retained if his treasures that they found were equally divided by divorce court judges? [00:22:53] How many would Blackbeard have retained? I’ll be back with an answer right after I go Shiver me timbers for the third time today. You know what I mean? No, no, no. I don’t [00:23:03] Joe: wanna know what you mean. All right. Paula is going last. Doc, you are first Blackbeard a ton of treasure on that ship and we’re just counting the number of artifacts, [00:23:14] Doc G: right? [00:23:14] I was about to say, but, but I have questions here because we are counting the number of artifacts. But then do we have to divide it by, you said he was what? Married 14 times? Yes. And 1%, one part goes to him. So divided it by 15, is that what you’re really think divided by 15? Yes. Okay, [00:23:27] Joe: got it. [00:23:28] Doc G: So how many I have? [00:23:29] I have no idea. How am I supposed to Likely, you’re apparently [00:23:32] Joe: not very good at this marriage thing. [00:23:33] Doc G: Yeah, yeah, seriously. So let’s say I’m gonna make it easy, right? So I’m gonna say they recovered, uh, 150,000 artifacts. So divide that by 15. So each person, 10,000 artifacts, [00:23:47] Joe: 10,000 artifacts, black beer kept candy. [00:23:51] You think that number’s high or low? [00:23:53] Candy: Oh. I was going off of wealth is what I thought you were going with. So I was thinking monetary. What? He would’ve been left with artifacts. [00:24:02] Joe: We never did. By the way we were researching this, Doug and I, we never got the true amount of money that it was worth. Which is which, to your point, that’s what we really wanted. [00:24:09] So is each coin one artifact? Each? Yes. Each coin is one artifact. Okay. Each, each thing is one artifact. So [00:24:17] Candy: then I would say it was in the millions of artifacts. So maybe. A hundred thousand per one, he would remain with a hundred thousand artifacts, right. Divided by 15. Yeah, I was gonna say he’d probably have a million, 15 million divided by five. [00:24:33] 1 million. So, yeah, I’d go with a hundred thousand, [00:24:36] Joe: 100,000 artifacts. He retains Paula. Uh, you got, you got a big delta there. Got a hundred thousand and 10,000. I’m [00:24:46] Candy: helping Paula move into second place easily. That’s my there. Well, [00:24:50] Paula: thank you. Thank you. Oh, all right. So I’ve got a couple of choices. I can, I can take the over, I can take the under or I can shoot squarely for the middle [00:25:00] Joe: and whichever one you choose, Paula. [00:25:02] At some point you’ll start doing the opposite. [00:25:07] Paula: So I guess I will shoot for the middle and I will say 55,000. [00:25:11] Joe: 55,000. You’re not gonna settle up next to anybody. [00:25:15] Paula: Yeah, no, I, I typically do, but, um, [00:25:18] Joe: but that hasn’t worked, so try something. Yeah, I know exactly, [00:25:20] Paula: exactly. Clearly what I typically do doesn’t do it. [00:25:23] Joe: Wait a minute. Are you actually applying some intentionality to your trivia today? I may or may not be, Joe. Can’t believe it. All right. Uh, who’s gonna win this? We got a hundred thousand from K, we got 55,000 from Paula. 10,000 from Doc G. We’ll be right back. Doc, you started off with 10,000 and I think both K and Paula said way too low. [00:25:47] Well, I don’t think so. Based on their numbers, I think they think you’re way too low. How you feeling? You know, [00:25:53] Doc G: it all depends. I mean, for instance, collecting a million artifacts is not easy. But if they’re 500,000 coins in one place and they pull ’em all out, maybe it could be So I, I have no idea. [00:26:03] Candy: I’m sure. [00:26:03] Candy. [00:26:04] Doc G: I was gonna say that must have been exactly [00:26:06] Joe: what you were thinking, candy. [00:26:06] Candy: That’s where I was going because I was trying to think of the currency back there and what type of, you know, artifacts would there be with gold being the currency. I was thinking that okay, he’s had to have at least probably half of a million in gold coins, if not more so. [00:26:20] If not, I will have totally overshot this. [00:26:24] Joe: Well, we will see. It wouldn’t be the first time. Doc G’s usually the one that overshoots it. He’s our low guy. I’m [00:26:28] Doc G: usually [00:26:29] Joe: off [00:26:29] Doc G: by, you know, you know, a multiplier. So [00:26:32] Joe: Paula, are you feeling confident? 55,000? [00:26:35] Paula: I’m feeling baffled. It’s such an odd question. I, well, thank you. [00:26:39] I mean, even, even by the standards for us. Yes. Even by trivia standards, this is a particularly oddball, so I have no sense, even if the question had been how many artifacts. I have no sense of what that number would be. And then divide by 15. I mean, [00:26:54] Joe: how do you get married 14 times? I don’t, wouldn’t you get to like time number three and go, I think I’m bad at this. [00:27:01] Candy: Maybe I should get some intention, my values [00:27:05] Joe: maybe exactly. Where was podcast back in those days? Apparently, Blackbeard left his device back on the, uh, back on shore when he was out at sea. All right, Doug’s got the answer. The answers are locked in Doug. Who’s gonna win this thing? [00:27:23] Doug: Hey there, stackers on Podcasting Pirate, and yet the guy everyone thinks of as their knight and shining armor, Joe’s mom’s neighbor, Doug. While Blackbeard may have been a smart sailor, apparently he was pretty bad at staying married, or he just really liked the honeymoon. I mean, ’cause Anyway, he went through that ritual 14 times. [00:27:44] So when black beard ship Queen Ann’s revenge was found, it was chock full of treasure. I. How many of these treasures would Blackbeard have kept if he had to share them equally with all of his wives? Well, our answer is, do you know, I’m not gonna tell you straight away, but what I will tell you is it was 83,334 less than what candy slash mom thought. [00:28:08] 38,334. Less than what Paula. Thought and 6,666 more. Oh no. Oh no. Than what Doc thought, because the correct answer is yes. The black beard had over 250,000 artifacts in his ship, and if he kept one 15th of them, he would’ve had 16,606 six making Doc G our unbelievable winner. That’s my time this year. [00:28:33] Doc G: That’s my win for the year. You’re supposed to throw it. You can’t let doji [00:28:37] Joe: get further ahead. Doc, what the hell are you doing? Unbelievable. [00:28:39] Doc G: Usually when you have me sub for og, he’s going down. I can’t help it occasionally. Like a clock is right. Twice a day. You know, [00:28:47] Candy: he obviously didn’t have gold coins. So that, [00:28:50] Joe: to your point, when we were looking at this, a lot of blackbeard’s treasure never found. [00:28:54] They said that, uh, there’s still maybe somebody that that’s why you have, uh. Generally speaking, older men out coming beaches, right? With their, with their weekend activity. Uh, their little, uh, their little thing, whatever. The metal detector. Metal detector, thank you. Metal detector and their little thing, the thing with the round thing and then the headphones and, and the stuff. [00:29:18] Wow. I’m good at forming sentences. I’m gonna stop trying to form sentences and let you guys form sentences. Let’s start to get tactical candy. Let off this tactical ness. Oh my goodness. Did I say that out loud by saying maybe we take a pause. I like that one, Paula. They’ve got some here at Psych Central. [00:29:37] Number one is they say, tune out the noise. What do you think about. Tune out the noise is a way to get more intentional. [00:29:43] Paula: Well, okay, so I, I do think that with that tactic and with some of the other tactics that they outline in the article, they start to conflate mindfulness with intentionality. Those are distinct. [00:29:56] So tune out the noise, be aware of your five senses. You know, those are mindfulness practices, and mindfulness is all about being in the present moment. Which is great, but it’s different than intentionality, which is all about having a clear North Star and knowing what value you hold above other competing values. [00:30:19] Doc G: Doc, you’re nodding your head. Yeah, I mean, I think we, it’s really hard because I think a lot of what this article talks about and a lot of what we’ve been talking about actually, I don’t think is intention. I think that’s purpose. And so we’re talking about what’s your intention behind this doing and doing it intentionally. [00:30:32] What you’re really think is doing this in the colloquial term, purposefully and purposefully in the colloquial, not the way I use it, but in the colloquial is. Kind of the reason why you’re doing what you’re doing. I don’t agree with that. I think purpose is actually more about the actions we carry about in the present future, but I think that’s why this is a complicated conversation because we’re using intentionally. [00:30:51] Sometimes it’s meaningfulness and sometimes it’s purposefulness. What I think attention is, is intent, which gets back to what Paul just said, is it’s the North star, so you have to have values. That give you an intent and then you intentionally carry out those values in action, which is what I call purpose. [00:31:08] I know it’s, it’s, it’s kind of confusing, but that’s, I think, well, it is, the word intentional, unfortunately is very confusing. [00:31:13] Joe: No, it totally is confusing. And candy, I, I mean, let me pile on with Paula and, and Doc, the thing I don’t like about tuning out the noise. It’s a negative. How am I gonna tune out the fact that there’s advertising around me all day that a D D’s a real thing. [00:31:26] There’s all these opportunities to go off message. Like I don’t think focusing on the negative is truly a strategy. [00:31:33] Candy: No, but I do think that we have to be realistic with the amount of distractions that there are. And if we are constantly allowing our distraction to be controlled by someone else, whether it’s social media or email marketing, or noise or the election or whatever may be going on, then we are not controlling our lives. [00:31:50] So I look at it as maybe tune out the noise. Maybe we could say it a better way if we wanna wordsmith it, like maybe get quiet with yourself. Take time to really set aside, because it’s like you need to go monthly and quarterly and look at your business to see what are you building. Are you intentionally building a business that you can exit that is sustainable, that will carry you through, that you can optimize profit and create other additional cash flowing assets? [00:32:14] Or are you creating a job. And so intent for me in the business world is we need to make sure that our actions align with what the goal is that we wanna achieve. And oftentimes people don’t even do that. So to me that’s intent, right? I wanna make sure that my actions align with my goal, and then obviously the goal should have values, it should be a value driven goal. [00:32:34] I wanna have time with my family, whatever. Now that’s your value. But if we can just get people to live with intent, we can at least start the process to get them to identify what their values are. And so to me, that’s where I see it a little bit differently. [00:32:47] Doc G: I think you just said what kind of we’ve been talking about, right? [00:32:50] So you start with a value and you use intent to carry out actions. I just said it backwards, you said, well, we start with a goal, so we do actions to follow our values, but yeah, basically intention is the way we carry out our values. Pursuit of purpose, which is actions. [00:33:05] Joe: Well, I like too. How, how can you turn that to the positive? [00:33:08] Like when you say get quiet, you know, the thing I was thinking in my head was I love the mantra to focus on one thing, right? I can’t think about 50 different things. That’s, to me, the noise. I got 50 things going on. I can’t think about all those. I gotta look at all those. I gotta decide which one’s gonna make the impact. [00:33:23] And the impact is based on the stuff that you said, right? Where’s my business going? What’s gonna be the trigger that I pulled that lends me the biggest, uh, makes more of the dominoes fall. I really like the positive versus tune out the, no, I don’t know what to do with, tune out the noise further down. [00:33:37] Paula. It talks about, I’m gonna skip over, identify your values. I think we beat that one. And then, uh uh, what do you think about this idea of set the morning intention? [00:33:46] Paula: It needs to be contextualized. I mean, you can set an intention for a given day, but if that’s not contextualized within the week, the month, the quarter of the year, then it’s just floating. [00:33:58] And oftentimes if the intention that pops into your head in the morning is. The immediate salient source of anxiety, which might be something that is urgent, but potentially unimportant. [00:34:12] Joe: But getting tactical here, the one part of my day that I know I’m gonna control every day is that first thing in the morning. [00:34:19] And I get to choose what I do first. I can go look at my email and then somebody else controls my day. Mm-Hmm. Or I get to focus. I mean, I do like the idea of first thing in the morning, I get to choose Paul if I’m getting tactical. [00:34:32] Paula: Certainly the, the earlier in the day something happens, the fewer, like the less opportunity there is for other things to throw it off course. [00:34:41] That being said, our energy peaks, you know it, it ebbs and flows throughout the day. There are certain times of day when we’re better at socializing and certain times of day that we’re better at athletics and certain times of day that we’re better at clear thinking. And so there has to be some type of circadian body rhythm that’s also taken into account when you’re planning out your day. [00:35:03] The morning isn’t good for everything. [00:35:05] Joe: No, absolutely. But I think then Doc, like again, if I’m being intentional, Paula talks about circadian rhythm. I go right to my calendar, then I. And I’m like, okay. Afternoon’s when I get the Sleepies. This is totally me, by the way. It’s when I get the sleepy. So guess what? [00:35:17] I’m gonna be in meetings in the afternoon so I can fall asleep in front of people. No, I’m kidding. So I know that I’m awake and my body just responds ’cause I’m in a meeting, right? So the Sleepies don’t happen in mid-afternoon. If my butt’s in a meeting also, then I think about my workout schedule and and trying to adjust that rhythm with my workout schedule. [00:35:36] It seems, doc, we could take our calendar then and be intentional about our calendar, that this is kind of an offset of the morning intention. [00:35:43] Doc G: Yeah. Again, I think it gets complicated when we’re talking about the different version of how we’re using intention. I guess the way I would look at this is, for instance. [00:35:50] I can wake up every morning and my intention can be to be a healthy person who takes care of my body. And so the action I can do to do that is I can go run a few miles now, the intention carries out the action. I could have the intention of looking really good so I could score lots of dates. That’s not really like connected beard, connected to my, it could, yeah, that’s not really connected to my values, so that’s a improper intention or not an intention that serves me. [00:36:20] But if I wanna do it to be healthy, then that’s the appropriate intention to start the day when I go on my exercise. If that makes sense. [00:36:27] Joe: Well, the next one on here then Kdi, is to refocus. And when I think about refocus, I think about what you said earlier, somebody who’s just starting out, they’re juggling all these things. [00:36:36] A full-time job, they want to be an entrepreneur. Like refocusing, I think has gotta be a big part of getting intentional. [00:36:42] Candy: I. Not even refocusing. I think it’s just focusing, like getting clear about what you want, reverse engineering that goal backwards so you can achieve it. But I, I make this super simple, get three non-negotiables. [00:36:54] Like rather than, oh, if you do this, maybe this is your intention, or maybe, you know, this might be the wrong value, but what are just three non-negotiables. Three things that no matter what you have to achieve today, in order to push that monthly, quarterly, or annual goal or do whatever it is that you wanna do in your life, and if we can do that three things every single day, that’s 90 things that you’re doing moving forward every single month. [00:37:14] That’s the compound effect to really help you achieve whatever it is that you’re after more easily. [00:37:18] Joe: Katie, sticking with you in this piece that says to create small shifts, think about small shifts versus thinking about big shifts. I don’t know is, is that just because. People are, are afraid to make the big move. [00:37:32] ’cause in my life when I just said, screw it, I’m making the big shift. Like that’s when the massive change happened in my life. [00:37:38] Candy: Well, I think the big shift can help you get the courage to start, but it could be overwhelming ’cause you don’t know what to do next. It’s like having that decision to take the next step without having to look the entire staircase. [00:37:49] I think the small things stacked over time, of course, is what’s gonna compound and it’s more about taking the next step. Like I see entrepreneurs wanting to start wanting to build a business or somebody wanting to create wealth, right? And it’s like, oh, I wanna, I wanna have 10 million portfolio, but they don’t even have 10 saved. [00:38:04] How do you just. Do the first thing. You can’t go run a marathon tomorrow if you never ran the first mile. So I think if we can start with a small goal, because a lot of wealth building business success is all behavior and it’s all habits. So if we can start with something small and we can achieve it, then we can stack on that small win and eventually those over time, just like the small investments or the small decisions or the small deposits in your relationship, those stack and compound in order to give you the big wins. [00:38:30] Now I see that business has never been easier to get into, but it’s harder to sustain because of so much competition. If we can focus on the end of what we want to build, but just take the next step towards it and realize that you don’t need to understand the whole plan. I think more people would sustain success long term. [00:38:49] Joe: That is a truism I think a lot of people forget, which is that if the barrier of entry is low. Then competition is immediately going to flood in, and so you’re gonna have to work your ass off to rise above that tide, which to me, by the way, is the reason why getting into multi-level marketing is so, so difficult and wrong for most people. [00:39:10] I think I. On one hand, it’s just another sales avenue. But I think because any moron can do it, people start focusing on the wrong things. Hey Paula, you don’t have to work. This is gonna be really great. It’s not about selling a product. You don’t have to work. And the reason people say that is because the varied entries so low. [00:39:27] Uh, this piece has a question, Paula, I’m gonna ask you. Is intentional living always comfortable and calming? [00:39:32] Paula: No. No, because. Sometimes following that North Star means that you are necessarily saying no to other things that you also prioritize, that you also value, but you simply don’t value those things. [00:39:49] Quite as highly when you’re directionally pointed towards one very specific North Star, like the one thing that’s great, you have to say no to a lot of things that are good and that can feel bad. [00:40:02] Joe: Well, let’s talk not for a second to business owners like we have so often in this podcast because candy’s here. [00:40:08] But, but let’s talk to even in the nine to five, Paula, uh, getting that next raise. I mean, you’ve got a course on negotiation. Like even then being intentional about what you want, it sounds like you gotta be comfortable being uncomfortable, [00:40:22] Paula: right? Right, exactly. And, and in the context of asking for a raise, I mean, when you think about that conversation, it is a multi-issue conversation. [00:40:32] You’re not just discussing salary, you’re discussing salary, benefits, vacation days, sick days, combination of in, in certain jobs, combination of. Working remotely versus working in person, if that’s applicable to your, to your role. You are talking about a huge number of issues and so gaining ground in one given issue often requires. [00:40:58] In some cases giving up ground, sometimes significant ground in other issues. But if there is something that’s important to you, you move heaven and earth to make it happen. Even if that means you have to move jobs, you know, change roles, find a new employer, like if there’s a specific thing that really truly matters to you, then you make some deep sacrifices in order to to carry that to fruition. [00:41:22] Joe: I’d like to get all three of your take on this, because I mean, this is for anybody. Wants to answer, but I think focusing on the things that you’re gonna get rid of is a mistake. I think that it’s much more, the things kind of fall away. If I’m very intentional. The things that don’t meet my intention then tend to fall away. [00:41:42] Am I wrong there? I mean, I think you have both levers, which is wonderful, [00:41:47] Paula: Paula. So I feel a little bit yes and no about that because. On one hand, I agree that if you are hyper-focused on something, then it simply that hyper focus crowds out the time, the cognitive bandwidth, the energy that you could direct elsewhere. [00:42:03] That being said, we live in a noisy world that’s full of distractions, and so sometimes you’ll be offered, you know, opportunities. I’ll, I’ll give you just a, a very small, somewhat insignificant example. Friend recently asked me if I wanted to go shoe shopping together. If I had absolutely nothing else on my plate, yeah, I would love to, but frankly it’s not a priority. [00:42:28] If I need new shoes, I can order it online in five minutes. [00:42:31] Joe: I like being barefoot [00:42:33] Paula: though. Yeah, yeah, exactly. I walk the streets of Manhattan barefoot, you know? But when in that moment that she asked if I wanted to go shoe shopping, it sounded like fun. And so I had to be really intentional about would that be fun? [00:42:49] Yes. Is that my North Star? [00:42:52] Joe: No. That’s interesting though. But if you value the friendship, if that’s part of your value, then you’re going to meter someplace else doing something, then I would imagine that’s an activity that’s more headed. In the same way you wanna go? [00:43:05] Paula: Yeah. I mean a shoe store is gonna be open until, let’s say 8:00 PM versus if we wanted, uh, to get a late dinner. [00:43:11] It’s the type of thing because when the time of day, right, when you do something, matters as well. We talked about circadian rhythm and we talked about when you have your best energy for working. Not all 24 hours a day are equal [00:43:26] Joe: kendi. I just have one more question that is burning at the end of the six weeks. [00:43:32] Where were you at financially? [00:43:34] Candy: I paid everybody, so I didn’t make any money, but everybody got paid and everybody got paid every single year thereafter. I tend to be a little bit more, I, I’m realizing that I’m a little more hardcore. I don’t know if it’s my background or the way I grew up, or you, [00:43:49] Joe: I never got that from you. [00:43:50] No, I’m kidding. [00:43:52] Candy: Because I look at it as. You have to be willing to say no to things. No is not a bad word. No is not a negative. The ability to say no to things gives you the opportunity to say yes to so many other things. And I look at my own life, like having the ability and the discipline to say no to so many things. [00:44:09] When I was 19, 20, 21, 24, my friends were graduating college and partying and having fun and I’m trying to figure out payroll or how to balance inventory or how to. Span and I said no to a lot of things, and maybe in the moment the short term gratification of it was difficult, but I was able to say yes to far more than I could ever imagine to do things that I couldn’t even imagine that, you know, 19-year-old kid who grew up in a trailer with teenage parents ever had the ability to do, achieve, grow, or, or just give contribute. [00:44:40] I don’t think that no is a bad word. I think that sometimes we have to say no to things in order to truly build the life that we want and for it to be good. Like I think you should say no to something so that you can really say yes to whatever it’s that you want, and the only way that we’ll ever truly expand. [00:44:56] From elimination, from not doing some things so that we can really fulfill our purpose and our vision and live with intent. But if you’re saying yes to all of these $10 decisions, like you’re never going to be able to get truly where you wanna go. [00:45:10] Joe: So you’re saying you’re not going shoe shopping either? [00:45:11] Is that what you’re trying to say? I’m not, [00:45:13] Candy: no. And my friends would not ask me. [00:45:16] Joe: That’s a long way of saying I’m not going to shopping, so don’t ask Candy. That’s the big thing. I think that’s a great place to leave it. And I’m so happy everybody got paid too. That was burning the entire, the entire episode. [00:45:28] Yes. And they all lived happily ever after. And now I feel, feel much better. Let’s talk about the amazing work that all you guys are doing, and we’ll have Candy, our special guest go last, Paula, what’s going on? On the Afford Anything podcast This fine pre uh, Thanksgiving Week. Shows [00:45:46] Paula: this fine pre-Thanksgiving week. [00:45:49] Well, of course every other roughly ish, every other episode features Mr. Jo Sal Cihi. Hi guys. Brilliant. Where we answer questions that come directly from the community. So that is, uh, that is available on the Afford Anything podcast. And we recently, earlier in the month, had a three part series with Dr. [00:46:11] Brad Klontz, the financial psychologist. Where we did a, a deep dive into 21 harsh truths that will help you get rich or you know, the converse of which will keep you poor. It was a six hour interview that we chopped up into three different episodes, so we did that. We had the mad scientist on our show. He reached financial independence when he was in his mid thirties. [00:46:32] Many people when they reach financial independence become work optional. But he retired. He actually left his software. Um, he was a software developer. He left his job. He moved to Scotland with his wife. They recently just had their second child. I. And so he talks about, he’s 42, he’s been retired for eight years, and he talks about what life is like as a 42-year-old retiree now with, he’s got a 2-year-old and a newborn. [00:46:58] Joe: Wow. And making a whole different life than before. And one that he chooses. Yeah, exactly. To speak to Exactly. Intentionality. Jordan, congratulations on your win. I can’t believe you won the trivia contest today. [00:47:09] Doc G: It it, it’s amazing. K. This is a once in a year thing that you, you are present for. You have no [00:47:14] Joe: idea. [00:47:14] I’m glad I could help. This is Doc G’s unicorn moment. Uh, what’s going on at earning Invest my friend? [00:47:20] Doc G: So, at Earn and Invest, uh, we just dropped an episode with Frank Vasquez and we are talking about modern portfolio theory, the efficient frontier. Not looking necessarily a hundred percent at returns, but looking at risks, seeing how we can minimize risk, uh, moderate returns slightly, but generally have better outcomes. [00:47:39] Frank is well known for thinking about having a safe withdrawal rate of 5% or higher, so he is really talking about getting the most out of your retirement portfolio. [00:47:48] Joe: It’s so funny how often Frank and I are on the same page. I’ve been talking about that on [00:47:53] Doc G: Paula’s podcast. Joe, you’ve been in my ear. [00:47:54] That’s why I decided to have him on. ’cause I’ve been hearing you talk about it so much. I’m like, I need to talk about this more. So I had Frank on, ’cause he’s kind of like. You’re, you’re know-it-all uncle who can tell you exactly how it is. And so that’s why I wanted the frank in the shot. Wait a minute. [00:48:07] So [00:48:08] Joe: you’ve heard me say it over and over, [00:48:09] Doc G: so you fight [00:48:10] Joe: Frank on, what the [00:48:10] Doc G: hell [00:48:11] Joe: is that about? [00:48:11] Doc G: Well, Frank actually specializes in risk parity and we don’t really talk about risk parity as a portfolio management and asset allocation style, but he has a lot to say. And, you know, risk parity is interesting ’cause it says things like, Hey, invest. [00:48:24] And gold and a lot of people, especially in our community are like, what are you talking about? Gold? You don’t need mo gold in your asset allocation. Joe [00:48:31] Doug: specializes in parody too, but his has a D. [00:48:36] Joe: It totally does. Uh, and that’s at the Earn and Invest podcast. Where Finer Podcast r. And, uh, a woman who is a podcast of her own and she’s on the coolest network ever. [00:48:48] You know, candy, I dunno about you. We can’t, I can’t stop calling it Westwood One. I just, I can’t refer to it as the Cumulus Podcast Network, but the Candy Valentino show people can listen to. [00:48:58] Candy: Yes. And we talk all about how to grow your business, grow your wealth, how to create more freedom, um, and just the 9% edge, which is the lifechanging secrets to create more revenue for your business and more freedom for yourself. [00:49:09] And December 17th, we actually have a workbook that comes out, a planner. So that, again, I always say ideas aren’t gonna change your life. You gotta implement and execute ’em. You gotta take action. That’s where it’s going to come from. So I did just that. I created an implementation guide that people can read the book and then they can apply the book and really set up to have their wealthiest year yet. [00:49:29] Uh, it took us over a year to put that together and so I’m really proud of that and that’s something that we’re doing. But yeah, candy Valentino on the Cumulus Podcast Network. [00:49:37] Joe: We’re the finest, uh, podcast. Yes. Like afford anything and the Stacky Benjamin Show. Well, congratulations on joining us in the podcasting world as we were backstage ahead of time. [00:49:48] I was like, Hidy, what the hell you doing? This is a bad idea. [00:49:51] Candy: You didn’t tell me, Joe. You were supposed to tell me Paula, you shoulda told me someone needed to gimme a clue. [00:49:56] Joe: But now we’re glad you’re here with us and it is fun and it is great that we can all talk in tension today. I think Doug, you got it from here, man. [00:50:05] What should we have learned on today’s show? Well, Joe, here’s [00:50:08] Doug: what’s stacked up on our to-do list for today. First, take some advice from our special hardcore guest, Kandy Valentino. Remember that awesome thing she said? I mean, I, I totally say it, kandy, but it, it means more, I think, coming from you. So remind what was that, the thing that made that, that you said earlier? [00:50:26] Candy: Oh, well I’ll give you the last one ’cause it’s probably the hardest. Be willing to say no to things now so that you can truly give yourself the ability to say yes to more things that you can ever imagine. [00:50:37] Doug: Yeah, that was, that was pretty much exactly how I was gonna say it. I think [00:50:40] Joe: some of Blackbeard’s Bride should have said no, like they should have asked a few questions like, how many times have you done this before? [00:50:46] But anyway, sorry, Doug. [00:50:49] Doug: Second, I still can’t get over how touched I was when Paula said I was her North Star about living your life with intentionality. Can you say the thing about the North Star again, Paula and how I’m like, yeah, just say that thing again. [00:51:06] Paula: You know, I said that sometimes in order to pursue the North Star to pursue that, which is great, you have to give up the good and that feels bad. [00:51:16] Joe: Give up the Doug, you mean? That’s what we’re really talking about. How we feel bad. Sorry. Yeah. [00:51:22] Doug: But the big lesson, speaking of pirates, how the heck does Joe’s mom get away with Piring away all the brownies? I think it’s time this crew crawls out of the Belgian stages, a mutiny who’s. [00:51:38] Thanks to K Valentino for joining us today. You’ll find her podcast, the Kandy Valentino Show, wherever you are listening to us right now. We’ll also include links in our show notes at Stacking Benjamins dot com. Thanks to Paula Pam for hanging out with us today. You’ll find her fabulous podcast. Afford anything wherever you listen to finder podcasts. [00:51:58] And finally, thanks to Jordan Grumet, AKA Doc G for joining us. You’ll find his latest book, the Purpose Code, how to Unlock Meaning, maximize Happiness, and Leave a Lasting Legacy Wherever You Buy Books. This show is the property of SB podcasts, LLC, copyright 2024, and is created by Joe Saul-Sehy. Joe gets help from a few of our neighborhood friends. [00:52:22] You’ll find out about our awesome team at Stacking Benjamins dot com, along with the show notes and how you can find us on YouTube and all the usual social media spots. Come say hello. Oh yeah, and before I go, not only should you not take advice from these nerds, don’t take advice from people you don’t know. 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